I'm a mother of three of the most amazing babies. So ok maybe they are not really babies per se but to me they are my babies, forever. I have two very rambunctious boys, beautiful and full of energy. They are also extremely hard to handle, and sometimes they make my head feel like a balloon. They can drive me to insanity and my head feels like it gets blown up with every yell and its just going to POP! My daughter mashAllah is the child of every mothers dream, beautiful, caring, studious, courteous, but even she can bring out her cat claws when her brother provokes her. Alhamdulillah I love them so much, I would poke out eyes, slit throats, disembowel someone if they tried to hurt my precious cargo.
And now I want another. I have always really wanted only girls. I'm one of five sisters and Alhamdulillah we have all been pretty close. I often see one if not all my sisters every week, and sometimes I can come home from seeing them and then go on msn and chitty chat with them again. Mr husband-man is like "helllooo you JUST saw her??" and I'm like... so??? I have something to say!!. This is how we roll. So Ive always wanted that for my daughter, I want her to have a sister, and I want another wittle baby in the house. My confuciusness comes from a few fears. Firstly I'm 35, I feel I'm getting a bit old for babies. There are factors you have to consider, one being the older you become the higher the chances of down syndrome etc. I also think I'm going to be 40 when non-existent baby is just beginning school! My other concern is having a boy, I honestly don't think I can handle another boy, they are just tooo damn hard!!, especially ones with the crazy gene running through my family! Arghhhh I'm in limbo and I wish one side outweighed the other but they are pretty much equal.
Anyone here feel the same? I wish there was some way to tip me over the edge on either side, at least then I can just move on with what has to be done! To baby or not to baby, that my dear is the question??
Sooo who the heck wouldn't want one of these????
And now I want another. I have always really wanted only girls. I'm one of five sisters and Alhamdulillah we have all been pretty close. I often see one if not all my sisters every week, and sometimes I can come home from seeing them and then go on msn and chitty chat with them again. Mr husband-man is like "helllooo you JUST saw her??" and I'm like... so??? I have something to say!!. This is how we roll. So Ive always wanted that for my daughter, I want her to have a sister, and I want another wittle baby in the house. My confuciusness comes from a few fears. Firstly I'm 35, I feel I'm getting a bit old for babies. There are factors you have to consider, one being the older you become the higher the chances of down syndrome etc. I also think I'm going to be 40 when non-existent baby is just beginning school! My other concern is having a boy, I honestly don't think I can handle another boy, they are just tooo damn hard!!, especially ones with the crazy gene running through my family! Arghhhh I'm in limbo and I wish one side outweighed the other but they are pretty much equal.
Anyone here feel the same? I wish there was some way to tip me over the edge on either side, at least then I can just move on with what has to be done! To baby or not to baby, that my dear is the question??
Sooo who the heck wouldn't want one of these????
OK so this is an orangutan but hell I wouldn't mind having one of them either!!
Ebs, Allah is the best of planners, just because u try doesnt mean He will give! Unless it has been written for you. And if it has been written for you then the boy/girl part is also written and cannot be changed. As i said Allah is the best of planners =) May Allah grant u what ur heart desires!
ReplyDeleteLmaooooo at the orangutan! If you even find that cute....u def need another baby...just have one biatch...never know we may have twins...lol...one each!;) InshAllah..xx
ReplyDeleteNO BABY ! THREE IS ENOUGH MASHAALAH
ReplyDeleteZaynab xx
that is the cutest lobster. start making babies!
ReplyDeleteTrue Anon true and hence part of the confusion!
ReplyDeleteLashizzle, I really want but maybe wanting something isnt enough? Dunno!
Lol @ Zaynab!
ReplyDeleteAnge cute is an understatement! If only I were a spring chicken id pop one out every year!
I think it's a great idea if you can handle another baby, but quite honestly rather than seeing couples get closer to each other I've seen them getting distant and start looking a little weary and tired, which is never a good sign. I've seen my share of people that either had kids after their youngins had grown up and gone through their terrible two's and I've also seen couples that have had several kids to the point where they can't manage the kids nor their marriage. So, if you can take care of your married life and manage kids without going insane --- I'd say more power to you, and if not, then I'd say steer clear because sometimes it just doesn't go the right way.
ReplyDelete....although, kids are a blessing/rehma.
:)
Take care love!
I enjoyed reading this lol. I too have the same dilemma: I have two boys and one daughter. If I know I'll have a girl I will have another. I'm 33 so I don't want to have babies forever either. Also, there's only three seats at the back of my car :)
ReplyDeleteAllah(cc)hu hakkimizda hayirlisin versin, gonlune gore versin.
ReplyDeleteIt aint easy but then what is?
They are sooo cute though.
I have one toilet training and one gonna pop out within 11 weeks inshaAllah.
Allah(cc)hu yardimcimiz olsun, azi da cogu da imtihan.
You made me laugh Ebru ;-)
Fatma ablan.
AMIN Fatma abla! And ditto I think you need more help then I do!! Im glad you read my blog and I put a smile on your face:) xxoo
ReplyDeleteMLW I think this post speaks to most women. All I can say is thank ALLAH that he has at least blessed me with children, there are women who unfortunately cant have any! InshALLah if you decide to have another its a girl!
ReplyDeleteOh and my hubby says the same to me and then goes on to say if you have another Ebru it means VAN and he knows I hate vans!! lol (no offence to any van drivers!)
Sobia, its a great point and very true. However my hubby and I seem to grow closer with every child Alhamdulillah, I mean Id love more time with him, some romance wouldnt go astray but I think after two your doomed anyway, so four,five wont make a huge difference. Lol.
ReplyDeleteInshAllah Khair! my mama had me after 4 boys n Im the best think that ever happened to my family....Lol...then she waited 7 years n out popped Hennes Mennes it was the best day of my life....although there were times when I wanted to poke her eyes out bc I felt like she was stealing my thunder...very true about the whatever Allah wills point! See me I was tortured with having 5 bros so Alhamdullillah I was cut some slack with my 2 chickens...very true Allah is the best of All planners..InshAllah you get what your heart desires! ;)
ReplyDeleteOMG not to blow my own horn or anything, I had written the best post and it just disappeared!! Anyway, girl if it is meant to be it will happen Inshallah. For those children we all have may ALLAH make them pious, healthy and happy in their lifetime. May ALLAH make them successful in the hereafter and in this life Inshallah. May we be patient with them as well hehehe.
ReplyDeleteMy dear sis Ebru, may Allah bless you with a pious, healthy, happy and successful little girl, and a hot van cos you are gonna need it girl!!!
We don't know why ALLAH gives us children and why he denies us children. We don't know why ALLAH gives us healthy children or unhealthy children etc. Whatever good comes to us is from ALLAH right, so we must always look at everything as a mercy from ALLAH. ALLAH knows best. (this is a bit off topic)
P.S ebru can you take those baby pics down now, you are gonna make a lot of ladies out there feel a little clucky, even the ones who are on every single form of contraceptive Lol.
Ohhhh I want the one in the lobster costume, sooo cute!! But only to love and hold temporarily. On the other hand are you madddddd lolll? You are either maternal or you're not and I certainly am not so that explains my adverse reaction to women who wana have more kids. But having said that I had rayyan at age 33 and she is the apple of my eye, cant imagine life without her, even though I bawled my eyes out when I found out I was preggers lol. It was like Allah was saying to me you cried and you didnt want her, well Im gonna give you a baby that you are gonna love like you have never loved before. And remember Allah doesnt burden us with more than we can bear :)
ReplyDeleteI have 2 boys mashaAllah. I think 35 years is the limit for me (down syndrom etc)You should do what feels good for you sis!
ReplyDeleteYes Hijabi thats what I was thinking (with the age factor) Kheir InshALlah
ReplyDeleteLolll Sevda! Loved the bit of having a baby like you've never loved before! MashAllah all your daughters are beautiful and for someone whos "not maternal" three seems like a lot??? Lol I was never maternal either but not I cant seem to stop!!
ReplyDeleteOh Whbet!! you made me laugh! Amin sis and your right!
ReplyDeletei say yay :P
ReplyDeletewell my dear, what have you decided? I can say that holding my precious bundle in my arms these past 15 days has been nothing short of amazing. Every scent, every yawn, every stretch melts my heart. I'm loving the process of falling in love with my little angel. now, that wasn't meant to influence you in any way ;-) there are, of course, so many other realities. I guess if you are healthy and have a good support system (which you do alhamdulillah), then why not? And like someone once told me when I was facing the same dilemma, every soul that is meant to come down will so there's really nothing to be confused over ;-) But i know what you mean at the same time. I love how this topic has generated such lengthy and varied discussion xoxo
ReplyDeleteWell wiyyah, noooo you having three beautiful girls doesnt influence me in the slightest!!! Lol.. yes well said. Ill just make lots of dua:)
ReplyDeleteall u can do is pray to Allah! <3 hehehe
ReplyDeletebtw i shall pray for you too!
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